Wednesday, July 30, 2014


Important reminder: Everyone on the internet is a real person.

Go read this. It’s really important.

Be kind to one another.

  • People on HGTV shows: wow this house is perfect and it's $150,000 less than our budget! Look at the open concept floor plan! Oh but wait... the master bathroom doesn't have a double vanity! I hate this house let's leave right now

Anonymous said: As much as The Rock does talk about racism and his experiences with it, I'm still so disenchanted knowing he's a Republican. I guess at the end of the day, saving money when your making millions is what matters most.



I’d still go see the Hercules movie, but yes you’re right, he’s a Republican so I really can’t cheer The Rock on. Of course Robert Downey Jr. is a Republican too, and that doesn’t seem to stop Tumblr from… well, anything.

It’s cute to me that people will write off an indigenous man kicking ass in the white man’s world because of his “supposed” political affiliations. Granted, Republicans by and large are not people I am a huge fan of - but there are most definitely reasons for why people register Republican. It’s just a name, I myself was a registered Republican for several years despite that I didn’t agree with several (ALL) of their politics - for reasons that are incredibly personal and frankly unpleasant.

He spoke at the Republican National Convention that’s right, he also spoke at the DEMOCRATIC National Convention because it was a campaign to encourage kids to vote.

When the day comes that The Rock actually goes out and says women aren’t allowed autonomy, racism is great, and homosexuality is a sin - then you can throw him under the bus. He’s never done anything like that, aside from having a lame little political label under his name. The same by the way, applies to Prince Quentin Kawananakoa who is also a Republican and is one of the heirs to the Hawaiian throne. We are a Democratic state, and his siblings are certainly Democrats, but we honor and support him regardless.

Dwayne Johnson is a proud wonderful Samoan man, a damn Seiuli (chief, yeah he’s literally a Samoan chieftan), and a great role-model. So if you can’t cheer him on because he might “potentially” be on the “other side” then I guess support of indigenous people is conditional to a lousy form filled out when you turn 18.

Also, keep in mind that he came from wrestling and is an action star - the core demographic of both of those tends to lean conservative. What a celebrity says to maintain their relationship with their fanbase and what they actually believe can be very different.







I did not realize this. This is good.



tbh I don’t see the fuss about having waiters/waitresses not being happy and enthusiastic like I came here to eat I didn’t come here to be amused by employees as long as I’m getting my food and they’re not being blatantly rude I don’t see why y’all need to go on yelp to rank a restaurant 0/5 and have an outburst on why your waitress didn’t smile at you when she poured you water

this is pretty fucking important

Sara Bareilles debuts one of her newly written songs for Waitress the Musical (x)

"Should parents read their daughter’s texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?"





Earlier today, I served as the “young woman’s voice” in a panel of local experts at a Girl Scouts speaking event. One question for the panel was something to the effect of, "Should parents read their daughter’s texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?"

I was surprised when the first panelist answered the question as if it were about cyberbullying. The adult audience nodded sagely as she spoke about the importance of protecting children online.

I reached for the microphone next. I said, “As far as reading your child’s texts or logging into their social media profiles, I would say 99.9% of the time, do not do that.”

Looks of total shock answered me. I actually saw heads jerk back in surprise. Even some of my fellow panelists blinked.

Everyone stared as I explained that going behind a child’s back in such a way severs the bond of trust with the parent. When I said, “This is the most effective way to ensure that your child never tells you anything,” it was like I’d delivered a revelation.

It’s easy to talk about the disconnect between the old and the young, but I don’t think I’d ever been so slapped in the face by the reality of it. It was clear that for most of the parents I spoke to, the idea of such actions as a violation had never occurred to them at all.

It alarms me how quickly adults forget that children are people.

Apparently people are rediscovering this post somehow and I think that’s pretty cool! Having experienced similar violations of trust in my youth, this is an important issue to me, so I want to add my personal story:

Around age 13, I tried to express to my mother that I thought I might have clinical depression, and she snapped at me “not to joke about things like that.” I stopped telling my mother when I felt depressed.

Around age 15, I caught my mother reading my diary. She confessed that any time she saw me write in my diary, she would sneak into my room and read it, because I only wrote when I was upset. I stopped keeping a diary.

Around age 18, I had an emotional breakdown while on vacation because I didn’t want to go to college. I ended up seeing a therapist for - surprise surprise - depression.

Around age 21, I spoke on this panel with my mother in the audience, and afterwards I mentioned the diary incident to her with respect to this particular Q&A. Her eyes welled up, and she said, “You know I read those because I was worried you were depressed and going to hurt yourself, right?”

TL;DR: When you invade your child’s privacy, you communicate three things:

  1. You do not respect their rights as an individual.
  2. You do not trust them to navigate problems or seek help on their own.
  3. You probably haven’t been listening to them.

Information about almost every issue that you think you have to snoop for can probably be obtained by communicating with and listening to your child.

Part of me is really excited to see that the original post got 200 notes because holy crap 200 notes, and part of me is really saddened that something so negative has resonated with so many people.

The Sara Bareilles concert was AMAZING. She totally delivers live. Since it’s the Little Black Dress tour, I was going to wear my black dress but it was chilly yesterday so I changed my mind. She sang mostly songs off her newest album plus “Love Song” and “King of Anything”. She also shared that she’s writing the music for a musical based on the movie Waitress (which is a great movie if you haven’t seen it). She played one of the songs from it and it was so moving that I cried.

I had a great time and if you ever have the chance to see her live, you should!

Tuesday, July 29, 2014


iconic moments in history: 6000 people waiting in line for hall h saw a helicopter land on a yacht, turned to the person next to them, and said “haha, it’s probably tony stark” and it fucking was


getting spoken to as if i’m straight by straight people who assume everyone is straight, subsequently feeling like the world’s most useless and irritated secret agent